Ladies, what happens when you’re ready for marriage and your man is dragging his feet? Do you stick around and wait? Or do you end the relationship and start anew in hopes of finding someone who shares the same desire of marriage and family that you have? This question solely depends upon the amount of risk you’re willing to take.
One of the most important things that people fail to acknowledge about love and relationships is that it is risky. Relationships should be revered in the same way that investments in stocks and bonds are revered: There are no guarantees — even if you put all of your life’s savings into one stock, it can still crash at a moment’s notice.
With love, it’s important that you assess the extent of risks you and your partner are willing to take. If your man’s reason for dragging his feet is due to finances, for example, perhaps you can help him set and reach his financial goals in exchange for marriage. If both of you agree to this plan, you’re both taking on an equal amount of risks; however, if you propose a solution to his concerns and he is hesitant to accept the solutions, this could be a strong indication that he’s not willing to risk as much of his life for you as you are for him. In other words, you may be too far ahead of where he is in life at this moment. If this is the case, you have at least two options: 1) You can stay with him in hopes that he’ll change his mind and want to marry you or 2) You can end the relationship and risk finding — or not finding — someone who is seeking to raise a family in the near future.
So, should you wait around for a marriage proposal? That depends on the amount of risks you’re willing to take.
