I am sorry but keep your virginity to yourself. Like stop rubbing it in our faces.
It does not make your relationship better, does not make your sex better, does not increase your bank account and does not make you a better person. It just means you had sex after so many other people. And last I checked you don’t get an award for that.
Virginity is not an anti-divorce seal and science has proven that Virginity does absolutely nothing. But yet it is a prized asset, like a girl with light skin and flowing long hair. That angelic image of a virgin that can do no wrong, but last I checked a virgin can still stab you in the back and slap your head off.
But we don’t hear enough of them because every minute one virgin or the other is whispering out loud about their virginity. Why do virgins have to announce their virginity to the world, “hey look at my legs, look at them nobody has gone between them.”
I know I know not all virgins say that, some are quiet and humble and I respect that. This rant are for those virgins that have to tell the world they are virgins so that on their wedding day their virginity is on everyone’s mind. They like the virginity attention, its like a drug. “Hey look … my hymen it’s still intact” O wow … have a Virgin cookie!
And it’s always the same thing hey “I saved my self for marriage” because a pastor who was likely not a virgin told me not to mess around! But I wish, really wish they said…”hey look I am a virgin … I saved myself for marriage and saved a ton of money by investing in a diverse portfolio and several businesses so that I don’t have to depend on my Husband who o by the way is not a virgin to save my behind!”
I wish that was the message we told our daughters instead of telling them to aim for virginity while their Husbands run around. But hey we will let it slide because it’s the job of the woman to protect her virginity and not the man … that’s the double standard we sell our women. So much so that virgin married woman can strut around in the same paragraph as an accomplished unmarried woman …. that’s what our nation adores. But last I check virginity did nothing for our Nations GDP!
Now please before you go about breaking your hymen … STOP.
I am not saying you should start sleeping around or that virgins are evil people. All I am saying is it to keep your virginity to yourself. Stop waving it around because it is overrated and it does not define you!
Okechukwu Ofili is an author, speaker, and blogger and a The Trent Elite Voice. Follow him on twitter, Facebook or subscribe to his blog for more honest talk and as @ofilispeaks on instagram for more sketches! To bring Ofili to your school or organization as a speaker simply go here. His third book How Intelligence Kills was published in December 2013, order it at https://bit.ly/intelligencekills.
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