Your partner would love it if you took initiative in bed. We tell you how to shed those inhibitionsThey say women usually hold the reins in a marriage or relationship (ask the men!) but when it comes to sex, they prefer men taking charge. Wonder why? That’s because many women are rather shy and self-conscious of their sexual avatars. Whether it’s asking your partner to dim the lights while making love or sucking your tummy in when you’re naked, they’re all signs of lack of confidence. We think it’s time to dismiss your silliest of inhibitions and instead, focus on having a delightful time with your partner in bed. Easier said than done? Give the tricks below a try, and see your confidence soaring through the roof!
Splurge on lingerie
As cliche as this sounds, nothing works wonders to a woman’s confidence, like some sexy lace lingerie. After all, the best thing about lingerie is that even if you aren’t ‘feeling’ sexy from within, it will definitely make you ‘look’ all sexed up! What’s more, not only will it make your guy ecstatic (admit it — men love their women in scintillating lingerie), seeing him aroused like that will definitely give you some self-assurance and set the mood right. Once you’re in your lingerie, feel the silky satin against your skin and relax. And may we suggest, throw in a pair of stilettos for good measure!
Prep yourself up with props
Of course, props make sex fun and exciting, but did you know, if you choose the right kind, they could also amp up your confidence in bed? Think about it — if you don a kinky costume, put on some make-up or use a blindfold (either on yourself or on your partner), it will lower your guard, remove focus from your inhibitions, and add a new dimension to your personality. Even when you are indulging in some role-playing, make sure you try out confident characters, who ooze a lot of sex appeal! That way, you can be as sexually liberated as you want, without worrying about what your partner will think of you. After all, it’s just an act!
Strut around — buck naked!
Okay, we know this one sounds like a fanatical, jaw-dropping, have-you-lost-it suggestion, but try shedding your inhibitions by shedding your clothes! For starters, walk around your bedroom naked, when you’re alone. Stand in front of the mirror and appreciate the beauty of your body. If you’re comfortable enough, choose a chore to do around the house — ironing, doing the dishes etc. It may seem ridiculous, but the more time you spend with your body in the nude, the more comfortable you will get with it. And you’ll also be less critical about your physical flaws. Tip: Don’t forget to draw the curtains while you do so!
Pamper your body
Not everyone is blessed with enviable looks or a toned figure. Even if you’re an average-looker, who often has to struggle to maintain her weight, it doesn’t mean you need to feel any less confident about yourself. Get an exercise routine, so that you can tone your body and be unabashed about it while making love. Twice a month, fix up an appointment at the beauty parlour and get a pedicure, manicure or even a makeover. Once in a while, treat yourself to a spa massage. Pampering your physical being will work wonders to your self esteem!
