Like working out, sex can be bad–and possibly dangerous–if you both parties haven’t warmed up properly. We know you are desperate to get to the good stuff, but foreplay can be good, too. If you take the time and make the right moves, you will find yourself loving the pre-game as much as you do the grand finale. However, there is more to foreplay than first, second, and third bases. We spoke to real women to find out how to make foreplay creative and exciting, and what moves really get her going.
1. Talk to Me
I love a dude who can communicate during foreplay. Moaning and groaning is cool, but dirty talk is fun for both parties and typically you end up getting more/less of what you actually want in the bedroom when you can be vocal about it in a playful way. It’s a great way to get me going. –Kelly, 26
2. Pay Attention to the Twins
It sucks when they don’t spend enough time on breasts. Most men seem more than happy to spend a good amount of time on other foreplay activities and areas, but they kind of just see the boobs, give them a quick once over, and then move on, rarely to return. It’s very sad. Give them more loving, we like it! –Jessica, 26
3. Be Gentle
I’ve had a few just dive right in and try to just click away on my clit like it’s a computer mouse–like first thing, before I’m even undressed. One guy got so rambunctious with his fingers that I felt like I was hooking up with Jack the Ripper. Relax, guys, it’s a turn on. –Stephanie, 28
4. Undress Me
The act of undressing a person is in itself a type of foreplay. To me, it is the hottest part of being intimate with someone. Needless to say, when a guy is too excited about the end result that I end up taking my own clothes off in haste, it is a little disappointing. –Selina, 29
5. Put Your Tongue Back in Your Mouth
Tongue is fun and can be very verrrry sexy but too much tongue is nasty. And this goes for tongue engagement across all body parts…mouth (kisses are meant to involve lips and tongue…not tongue only…don’t need to know what you ate for dinner…and lunch), ears (this also can be sexy but has the potential to go very wrong and make me feel like you’re trying to clean out my ears with your tongue), neck (neck kisses are wonderful but please don’t slobber all over me like a dog or leave hickeys post middle school…I have to go to work with that) and lastly lady parts (very important…tongue is crucial but needs to be utilized correctly). –Kelly, 26
6. Take Your Time
If I am not thoroughly warmed up, the sex won’t be good for anyone. In fact, it might hurt. Just be in the moment and enjoy all the fun fooling around. The good stuff will come (literally). –Justine, 30
7. Use Both Hands
So if you are using a hand down there, you still have another free hand. Either go for the boobs, another part of my privates, or even just caress me somehow. Don’t be lazy. –Megan, 25
8. Multi-Task
Nothing is more awkward then when a guy is fingering me and just like hovering over me and staring at me. Kiss me! I don’t care where, but don’t just lie there creepily. What is so difficult about doing those two things at the same time? –Sara, 32
9. Enjoy My Get-Up
If I’m wearing something lacy, it’s for you. And if you don’t notice it, I wasted completely good underwear and a day in an uncomfortable bra for no reason. Don’t be in such a rush that you missed how hot I look in my lingerie. Take a second to take it all in, you might not get to see it ever again. – Kristin, 30
10. Nibble a Little
The key word here is nibble. Do not by any means treat my skin like beef jerky. But a soft, light bite on my ear, nipple, lip, or neck is so hot. However, this does not apply to my downstairs area. –Angie, 27
