Got your eye on a man? Want to make him your special someone, or at least your special someone to have fun in the bedroom with?
Well then, you’re going to need to learn the art of seduction. And who better to teach you than the sexy seductress herself, Dita Von Teese.
That’s right, if anyone knows about the art of seduction it’s this brilliant burlesque dancer.
When we met up with her we really wanted to know why practically every man falls at her feet. Is it what she wears? How she talks? Is it just confidence?
It turns out that the art of seduction has a few layers, but if you follow these simple tips we’re pretty sure you’ll be able to bag the man of your dreams.
1. Practice makes perfect
Yep, before you can even think about seducing someone, you’ve got to make sure you’ve done the ground work.
“It’s about seducing yourself in a way,” says Dita.
She recommends surrounding yourself with beautiful things, wearing perfume every day or wearing lovely lingerie every day so that by the time you actually come to seducing someone it will come naturally.
2. Be yourself
Dita’s next tip is to be yourself, don’t put on an act. When you’re picking lingerie don’t think: “What would he like?” Think “what would I like to wear?”
That will make you look more natural and effortless, which is always appealing to men. It’s when you seem like you’re pretending to be something you’re not that they’re turned off.
“You don’t ever want to look like you’re trying too hard to be sexy, that’s an epic fail,” says Dita.
“Think about what makes you feel sexy instead of what makes him feel sexy.”
3. What to wear
Ah that age old question – what to wear? Is less more? Is more, erm, more?
Dita recommends figure-hugging dresses that don’t show too much skin and would go for a below the knee option.
And don’t forget the classic rule – show cleavage or leg, not both.
“You want to wear something that shows that you have elegance and sophistication and that you also are sexy – you don’t want to give the wrong first impression,” says Dita.
She also recommends simple clothing so that he can focus fully on your beautiful face, not a crazy outfit.
“I always go for a simple color – monochrome, black or a color that I look good in,” says Dita.
4. Words of wisdom
Now for the bit that can be slightly cringy.
Which words do you use? What do you call him? What is it ok to say? Which words are a big no no? Oh the confusion!
Unfortunately there is no straight answer for this one, you’ve just got to work it out yourself (sorry!).
To do that, think about the chemistry you have together. Is it a romantic relationship? If so use romantic words. Or is it more sex-orientated? In that case you know what’s acceptable.
“The chemistry between two people changes so much – some people you have a different language with,” says Dita.
5. Body language
Body language – now that’s important when it comes to seduction.
“It’s really easy to give out a vibe even from across a room. You only have to be staring at someone, you don’t need to be really obvious. Sometimes when you’re just putting the intention forward and giving someone good vibes they’ll come back to you,” says Dita.
Dita says this one even works on people you’re talking to. Simply staring (but not in, like, a weird stalker way) can make them want you.
So now you know how to seduce someone, what are you waiting for? Find that gorgeous guy you’ve set your sights on and get seducing!
(via We Women)
