You and your guy have a good bedroom groove going — some days are sweet, some are sweaty, some days you maybe even leave a few dents in the wall with all your headboard banging. But no matter how satisfied you are, you probably wouldn’t pass up the chance to kick things up a notch. Try these tiny little tricks that just might transform your sex life. (Yep, it’s that easy!)
Try these 21 hot sex moves:
Get stoked
Sexy moments can strike when you least expect them. So seize the chance to spice up a night on the couch. “Have him use his fingertips to slowly, gently caress your skin,” suggests sex therapist Gloria Brame, Ph.D. “The light, sensual touch creates a tingling sensation that will wake up your body while also relaxing you for sex.”
Keep your panties on
Back in high school, you probably had rules for how far you’d go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenage you was on to something. “It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric,” says sex coach Patti Britton, Ph.D. “You’re building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it’ll be that much more explosive and exciting.”
Make circles
Let’s be honest: Most guys are just grateful to be getting a blow job. But that’s no excuse to rest on your laurels. Rather than simply moving up and down, use your tongue to slowly wind around his member. “Swirl up the shaft with the tip of your tongue. When you’re at the top, slide your whole mouth down and then up, with a sucking motion,” suggests sex therapist Carole Altman, Ph.D., author of Don’t Have Sex Again Until You Read This Book
Give barely-there kisses
Rather than simply making a beeline for his below-the-belt region, create a slow burn with featherlight kisses. Start by kissing his eyelashes, then the corner of his mouth, his jaw, and his collarbone. Next, kiss his nipples, under his pecs, and down along his treasure trail and over to one hip bone, then the other. “You’re building up anticipation as you make that slow, seductive crawl,” says Altman. “And the randomness of your kisses keeps his nerves on high alert as his brain and body try to figure out where you’re going next.”
Bend it better
For greater stimulation in missionary position, try this: “Hook your knees over your guy’s shoulders,” suggests Britton. “The angle puts more pressure on the clitoris, giving you a better chance of achieving orgasm.” Clench your butt and lift your pelvis to create more friction and make your climactic moment even more mind-blowing.
Get a little rough
Give a jolt during sex by gently nipping your partner’s shoulders or earlobe. “When you’re in the heat of passion, you may go more into your head than your body,” explains Brame. “A little pain snaps you both back to the moment.”
Sit up tall
You love you-on-top because you can control the speed, angle, and motion – he loves you-on-top because he can just lie back and watch. But what lazybones might not realize is that sitting up can enhance his pleasure even more. “Not only can you both do more with your arms and hands, but the sex is also more intimate with your torsos pressed together,” says Britton.
Guess what’s next
A little unpredictability during sex can make the experience even more intense for you. “While in missionary, have him tease you by mixing up his movements: slipping in just a little, going in halfway, and thrusting deeply, in random order,” suggests Britton. It’s his call what sequence he moves in: two short strokes followed by a long one, three deep ones in a row followed by two quick teases…you get the point.
Show off
Although your inner bad girl may get off on the idea of being caught in the act, the real you may not feel right about sneaking off to a bar bathroom. But you can feed any secret exhibitionist appetites by doing the deed in front of a window – with the lights out. “Stand up against the window, facing out, and have him take you from behind,” says Britton. You’ll get a rush from just the possibility of being watched.
Blow hot air
No matter what position you’re in, you can enhance the experience by gently exhaling on each other’s skin. “You’re already feeling pleasure in your genitals, but this move adds soft, steamy heat to other sensitive areas like your neck, your nipples, or the inside of your wrists, giving you tingles from head to toe,” says Britton.
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Find a new angle
“In order to orgasm from oral sex, you need him to use consistent, steady strokes,” explains Britton. “The easiest way for him to do that is by licking up and down.” But you’re more likely to orgasm when his tongue is running across your clitoris. The solution: Have him situate himself perpendicular to you (in a “T” shape), lying on his side. He’ll be able to work his tongue more easily, at an angle that’s optimal for your pleasure.
Buzz away
Put a spin on oral sex by getting a third party in on the action – a sex toy. “While he’s pleasuring you, have him lay a vibrating bullet against his cheek,” suggests Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed. “It creates a hum that’s not too intense, thanks to the buffering effect of his skin.” Of course, this move also works equally well when you do it for him, so be generous and give back.
Work your muscles
You can put an extra-special twist on intercourse just by clenching your pubococcygeus muscle (the same muscle you use to stop and start the flow when you’re peeing). “As he enters you, squeeze the muscle tight around him and then let go as more of his length moves in,” says St. Claire. “Squeeze again as he pulls almost out. Then repeat with each thrust.” This creates a tight pressure around his penis, as though you’re massaging it. The benefit for you: Your clenching motion creates pleasurable tension in your G spot and clitoris, making orgasm easier to achieve – and more explosive.
Don’t take it all off
Who doesn’t love getting naked? Still, there’s something so primal about clothes-on sex. While wearing a skirt or dress, get on the edge of the bed on your hands and knees. He unzips his pants, lifts your skirt, and has his way with you. “It’s a spontaneous, must-have-you-now move,” says Britton.
Anchor him
Try this hands-on approach to increasing sensation for him during intercourse: Form a ring with two fingers and your thumb and gently hold down the skin at the base of his penis. “Pulling his loose skin taut brings the nerve endings closer to the surface, making him more sensitive,” explains St. Claire.
Get on your feet
Here’s another way to make you-on-top more interesting: Squat over your man rather than straddling him. “By supporting yourself on your feet, you get better ease of motion,” explains St. Claire. “You can bounce higher and have more control of your movements, so your pleasure is intensified, and he can go in deeper, creating new sensations on the tip and around the base.”
Tighten up (or loosen up)
There are a million ways to adjust to achieve the perfect, er, fit. “If you want more friction during missionary, slide your legs together so that they’re between his,” suggests Brame. “You’ll have to start out with your legs flat on the bed, outside of his.” For deeper penetration, spread your legs wider with your knees up.
Give a tug
When it comes to his below-the-belt area, you’re probably more focused on the star than the supporting players. But you can make sex a heightened experience for him by stroking his testicles. “Softly massaging the area increases blood flow to his pelvic region, increasing his arousal and sensitivity,” says Brame. “Then, as he’s about to orgasm, gently tug on the loose skin around the ‘boys’ to amplify his big finish.”
Grab hold
Call him your prisoner of love and he’ll laugh. But pin him to the bed and he’ll know you mean business. “You can take a fun and playful approach to the whole domination thing by pinning his hands down while you’re on top,” says Brame. “It’s a delicious tease because all he wants to do is touch you, and you’re not allowing it.” Of course, if you’d prefer that he take control, just ask!
Go neck and neck
You already know that your man’s neck is a sensitive spot – his little shivers and moans when you nibble at his throat should clue you in. Still, there are a few nooks that will elicit even more of a “yowza!” reaction. “The line that runs from behind his ear down to the crook where his neck meets his shoulder is especially sensitive,” says Britton. “You can lightly kiss other lesser-known hot spots as well, like along his jawbone and even the back of his neck.”
Tickle him
He may think he’s seen every trick in the book, but show him you’re still full of surprises with this oral sex move: While down south, slip your finger into your mouth and stroke him. “The unexpected texture makes it a pleasurable treat for him,” explains St. Claire. The creativity alone will give him a rush since it’s something he’s probably never experienced before.
