1. “The worst thing you can ever say or talk about to a guy after sex is mentioning anything remotely about, related to, or concerning his mother. It will deflate that mood in less than a nanosecond. Trust me, I’m guilty as charged.” —Tanya T, 32
2. “‘OK. You can leave now.’ Kind of heartless. Also—bossy.” —Amy Schoen, dating coach
3. “The morning after, I asked her if I was a good lover. She said I was ‘definitely in the top 50!'” —Dan N, 32
4. “The worst thing a woman can say to a man after sex is, ‘That was nice.’ Sex isn’t supposed to be ‘nice’—it’s sex. Anything short of ‘wow’ and a guy will think he didn’t perform well.” —Thomas Edwards, “The Professional Wingman”
5. “I was in L.A. on a business trip. I met what I thought was my soulmate. Nuzzling up to her after our loving making session, basking in the glow of it, and I whispered in her ear, ‘How was it for you?’ She replied, ‘Better than a root canal.'” —Jon D, 32
6. “Don’t ask, ‘We used a condom, right?’ Women should know if they used a condomand most importantly you should always use a condom and never leave it up to him to decide. Also, don’t ever say ‘We need to talk’—I don’t care what it is you need to talk about, after sex is never the time to have one of ‘those’ talks.” —Emily Morse, sexpert
7. “‘We have to hurry, my boyfriend will be here soon.'” —Terri, 34
8. “Nothing. Saying nothing after sleeping with a new guy can lead you down the path of misunderstanding on anything from what works for you in bed to the status of your relationship. So whether you are feeling good, bad, or neutral about him (or the sex), be sincere, come from a place of good intention, and say something.” —Erica Curtis, marriage and family therapist
9. “‘That’s not what I expected.’ This line can be crushing because it hits at the core of a man’s self-image.” —William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing
10. “‘If I were you, I would learn how to please a woman.'” —Kate, 26
11. “The worst thing a woman can say to a guy after sleeping with him is anything in comparison to anyone else she’s been with. Guys don’t want to hear any of that, good or bad. As a couple’s therapist, I’ve seen this cause unnecessary fights and relationship trouble—keep your focus on him!” —Rachel Thomasian, marriage and family therapist
12. “‘I love you.’ This happened to me during my college years and made things very awkward since we just started seeing each other.” —Chau N, 27
13. “Never say, ‘I wish you could’ve lasted longer.’ This will only add pressure, it won’t solve the problem.” —Adam LoDolce, dating expert
14. “I met this much younger, naïve guy after a breakup. He’d only had brief sexual encounters with two women previously. We started playing around and I simply started giving him a handjob. He exploded within seconds, and there was a lake of cum on his stomach, and I said without hesitation ‘Wow…Don’t you ever play with yourself?'” —Jen, 35
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