Spicing up your sex life doesn’t take as much effort as you might think. And not only is it surprisingly easy, it can be a barrel-load of fun, too. Here’s a few tips to get you going:

1. Initiation.

You know that feeling when a guy you like wants you really, really bad? He may be trying hard to win you over, checking you out constantly and doing everything possible to be around you. It feels wonderful. The interesting thing is that guys feel exactly the same way when a girl they like is trying to win them over.

So why not use this to your advantage when getting sexual with your man? Why not show him how much you want him physically. Now this might not be the kinkiest sex idea that you’ve ever heard, but let me tell you this, it’s incredibly powerful. Here are a few simple ways that you can initiate things physically with your man.

2. Grab him & kiss him.

But do it when he’s least expecting it. Giving your man a kiss goodbye every morning when he’s leaving the house gets boring very, very quickly. A much more powerful way to kiss him is to do it when he’s not expecting it and without explanation. Then just go back to what you were doing previously. This change of pace for your man is incredibly exhilarating and will keep him constantly wondering when it’s going to happen next. So simple, yet very powerful. Just remember to use this idea sparingly.

3. Learn the right oral sex skills.

Without a doubt, the best bang for your buck (literally!) when it comes to discovering the bestkinky sex ideas to use on your man is learning how to give him a great blowjob. It’s surprisingly easy to give your man awesome oral sex with the right instructions. So if you’re looking to really make him scream with pleasure, then you may be interested in checking out online tutorials.

4. Initiate sex outside the bedroom.

I actually hope you’re already doing this kinky sex idea. The next time both you and your man are alone, maybe sitting on the sofa or going for a walk somewhere private (or any place where you won’t be disturbed), try initiating sex with him. You might be wondering what you should do? It’s pretty simple. Start by kissing him, then simply get a little more physical to the point where your hands are down his pants.

5. There is so much more down there.

Often people think giving your man oral sex requires concentrating only on his penis. The fact is that there’s so much more you can do to give him even more pleasure like his balls, perineum and even his anus.

6. Don’t be afraid to use your hands.

This may be the least kinky sex idea I give you today but sadly many girls make the mistake of not using their hands when going down on their man. It’s not cheating and it can give your mouth a much-needed rest.

7. Try the whirlpool technique.

Moving your head up and down when giving head is going to get boring pretty quickly for both of you. A simple way to change things up is to use the whirlpool technique. Instead of moving your head up and down, twirl your tongue over the top of his penis in a circular motion. Why this works so well is because the tip of your man’s penis is by far the most sensitive part of it.

8. A little BDSM never hurt anyone, did it?

Ever since 50 Shades Of Grey hit the bookshelves, dominance and submission has become one of those phrases on everyone’s lips when they’re searching for kinky sex ideas to spice things up. You may have tried it before or you may be eager to try it. You may have even already decided whether you want to be a dominant or submissive in any potential BDSM scenarios with your partner.

But before you go out and spend a small fortune on expensive BDSM gear and equipment, why not start small to gauge your man’s reaction and find out what aspects of it he enjoys the most and finds the most kinky? Here are a few super simple ideas to try out with your man:

9. Blindfold him.

The next time you and your man are in bed, try putting a blindfold on him before going down on him or even for the entire sex session. Blindfolds are easy to find, even most airlines give them out for free! Or if you like you can make one yourself. The sensory deprivation from a blindfold can help to heighten the other senses. A way to further the feelings of sensory deprivation is to use earplugs as well.

10. Pi/tie him down.

A great way to take things a little further is to get on top of your man and pin him down by his arms. Most likely he will actually be stronger than you…so one way to prevent him from overpowering you is to tie his arms to the bed. This is incredibly kinky and puts you firmly in control.

11. Make him be your slave for the day.

Becoming your man’s slave for the day is much kinkier than any of the previous ones and almost definitely one that he will like a lot! The important thing here is to make sure you and your man agree to some ground rules before starting, so that you both know the “safe” word to use if things get out of hand and he knows not to take things too far.

This post originally appeared on Your Tango: 11 Kinky Sex Ideas For Freaky Fun