Women, in recent times, are known to outnumber men in listing out modern expectations from their prospective spouse, cooking being one of them.
In a recent survey conducted by a matrimonial website, a whopping 51.9 per cent women said that they want their prospective spouses to help in household chores. While, 39.5 per cent want a spouse with culinary skills. Marriage counsellor Vedika Shreshtha, says, “The modern woman is independent, smart and speaks her heart, that makes her demands different from the stereotypes. Hence, if she thinks her prospective spouse should fulfill certain criteria, why not?”
She also adds, “Remember those days when prospective grooms would come to the bride’s home to see her walk and talk. Modern-age women are not just rendering this trend as passe but are paving a new path to have a stronger wedlock with better transparency.” Both men and women discover different things about themselves after marriage. It is often observed that these things are mostly shocks and not surprises. A guy who seemed open-minded when you met during courtship, suddenly seems an alien after staying together for a few days. Hence, these criteria when laid out before marriage can clear the air between the couple.
“We, too, have long working hours, in fact, sometimes even longer than men, and our jobs are as stressful. Hence, if I expect my husband to help me with the household chores, what’s so annoying about it? If he can expect me to be by his side during highs and lows, can’t I expect such a small thing from him,” says Bijalpita Dasgupta, an engineer by profession. Many feel that men who know cooking can be great companions for life, as they believe in sharing the simple joys in life like giving your better half a deserving break from the kitchen.
Ranjeeta Kalyanchandmooda, a wedding counsellor, feels that undergoing an HIV test and a fertility test before weddings is not just a criteria, it should be a mandate.
“STDs are very common these days, and it could affect anyone anytime. If the person’s medical conditions are prior known to the spouse, the person can be treated accordingly, and a right decision of marrying the person or not, will be solved easily. It also relieves women from being in the blame game of being unable to bear a child, etc,” says Ranjeeta.
Opening up about your liabilities and investments to your partner will make it simpler. “It will not just make the couple feel secure about each other, but also work in case of emergencies since the other half knows the kind of savings they have,” says Amit Dharia, a financial advisor.
What women want
– They should know how to cook
– They should help with household chores
– They should readily undergo an HIV test prior to marriage
– Admit to not feel financially insecure if I earn well/keep male ego aside
– Be open to talk about sex and also experiment
– Have a staunch opinion against dowry even if it is stated in customs
– Give enough ‘me’ time
– Never encourage any comparison with the mother-in-law
– Do not force on having children
– Never ask to give up careers
