by Sean Russell
Porn is Kryptonite for men.
If you are committed to living a great life and being an incredible man you must eradicate porn. It is the first and most important step in the entire process.
I’m not here preaching porn is “morally wrong”, or against religion. I’m preaching that porn is holding you back from being the greatest man you can. And to me, that’s the biggest sin of all.
Before you read this article
If you have 15 minutes I HIGHLY recommend you watch this video. It is a TED talk on porn addiction, its extremely fascinating and will open your eyes.
What is porn addiction?
You may think of porn addiction as being only an extreme form of watching porn, that severely interferes with ones life.
This is far from the truth.
Porn addiction is much more widespread than anyone realizes. I challenge you right now after reading this to not watch porn for a week. If you would have a tough time doing that, you are indeed addicted.
As a regular porn viewer from the age of 13 to 23, I too thought my porn habits were completely normal. The problem is that watching porn in our society has become absolutely normal. It is so widely accepted to watch porn, quite frankly you are considered weird if you don’t.
But the 95% of men out there that watch porn on a regular basis are truly addicted to it.
It’s like caffeine, it is an acceptable addiction.
Like I said, try not to watch porn for a week. You will have an extremely tough time, because you are so drawn to porn, every time you are aroused, bored, or any other emotion. The problem is that you’ve become drawn to porn, more than you’re drawn to women.
Imagine if you could break away from this desire for porn. Imagine if, while all the other guys are using their motivation and vigor up on their computer screens, you were out using it on real women. Imagine how incredible you could become.
“Everybody watches porn.”
Again, You’re absolutely right, and this should be your greatest advantage.
If you want to keep being like everybody else then keep watching porn.
But if you want to be those top 5% of men who get 80% of the women out there then you need to radically change your life. You need to separate yourself from the crowd.
So why is porn so bad?
So we know that porn is bad.
But what are some of the main reason why it is holding you back from being great?
1) Porn takes away all motivation to approach the opposite sex
There is no need to approach women when you have porn. You have all your sexual desires at your fingertips, which causes you to never develop game and to go straight to your laptop when you’re horny instead of trying to find a real girl.
2) Porn makes you weak and lazy
Men who watch a lot of porn lay around their house all day masturbating themselves into a coma. This frequent ejaculation takes away all motivation to go out and live life. Hours wasted every day.
3) Porn causes erectile dysfunction
When you watch too much porn for too long your mind becomes accustom to fantasy. When you are with a real girl you may have a very hard time getting a boner. Also porn gives you a false sense of what women and sex are like. Not all women look like these porn stars so when you with with a normal girl your arousal will be all screwed up.
4) Porn creates penis related self esteem issues
The reality is that 90% of men who watch porn do not have huge dicks like the porn actors they see. This creates big problems for men. Men who watch porn develop a false sense of the normal penis size and start to think of themselves as inadequate. This leads to a lack of self confidence in the bedroom, resulting in problems getting hard, timidness and a terrible sex life!
5) Porn ruins relationships
Porn will completely ruin up your relationship if you let it get its hold on you. Unless your wife looks like those women you are jerking off too, or you guys are having threesomes with other hot girls, you are going to be much more interested in your fake fantasies than that lovely lady in the other room. When the love life falls apart, the relationship falls apart.
6) Guys who bang lots of chicks don’t watch porn
Do you really think awesome guys you see in the club leaving with two beautiful girls sit home and watch porn all day? There is not a chance. Guys like this live their life, bang hot girls, and get shit done.
For a bigger more complete list of benefits, check out The Top Ten Reasons to Stop Watching Porn
Imagine a world with no porn
Take a second and really imagine yourself without porn in your life. Also imagine that you physically couldn’t masturbate. How amazing would your sex life be? When you got horny you would have no choice but to go out and stick it to the first girl you could.
You would be the man.
You wouldn’t immediately hit up your laptop every time you felt the urge. Instead, out of necessity, you would have regular girls who you could text, and be awesome at talking and picking up new ones. Your brain would be completely reprogrammed.
This is not a fantasy. You can absolutely be this man. You can reprogram your brain.
If you decide right now, after reading this article, that you will never watch porn or masturbate again I know that in 90 days you will be:
1) Much better at talking to women
2) Seeking and finding sex at a subconscious level
3) Happier
4) More energized
5) You will be an absolute boss
This is a competitive edge that you can have over 95% of men out there, I can’t stress it enough.
Your brain will be programmed to seek real women, while theirs will be programmed to seek women on a computer screen. You will be better at approaching women than them, and you will do so at a subconscious level.
You can do this. All it takes is one day where you decide that you want to make the most of yourself and your life. That’s how change happens.
It’s not going to be easy
I understand. It is so hard not to watch porn. Many of you probably have never even tried, its just second nature to watch porn.
There are unbelievably in depth websites dedicated to porn addiction and its affect on the mind. People on these sites who stop have withdrawal symptoms. Porn is a drug, literally.
An orgasm to porn triggers a huge unnatural release of dopamine, the pleasure chemical. Its what keeps you coming back.
When your dopamine drops after this spike, your brain wants more porn, it wants it’s fix. Repeated release of this dopamine over years of time causes the brain to stop producing its own natural dopamine receptors.
Just like opiates or heroine you become dependent on the porn for this release of dopamine. This is why it sucks you back over and over again.
As you can see in the graphic, porn really does affect your brain like a drug. When you stop after years of daily use you actually go through withdrawals.
Porn withdrawal symptoms include, but are not limited to:
1) Anxiety
2) Fatigue
3) Depression
4) Agitation
5) Insomnia
6) Mania
7) Body Aches
8) Brain Fog
The duration that these symptoms last is completely dependent on how deep your addiction is and how long you have been addicted for.
Sounds like a drug withdrawal right? That’s because it is.
If you don’t think porn withdrawals exist read on..
Take a look at a few out of thousands of testimonials of men who have recently quit viewing porn.
“My body and mind has been flipping out too. I’ve gotten sick twice. Stomach problems, appetite, headache, lost weight. Its a true withdrawal and different people respond differently. the good thing is that when I have seen my friends recover from booze they are pretty motivated and bright for a while, at least until they pick up their next distraction (sometimes healthier). One of my friends used to be overweight, when he stopped his addiction he started going to the gym and got all buff. hang in there, it sucks, but worth it.”
“My mind will not shut off, I can lay in bed for what can seem like an eternity and not fall asleep. I have tons of anxiety (not about porn, just about not sleeping) when I go to bed, but I don’t seem to have any real depression. I’m averaging about 3 to 4 hours a night if i’m lucky. I’ve tried tylenol pm, excedrin pm, nyquil, melatonin alka seltzer night time, and 12.5 ml of ambien cr and NOTHING HELPS.”
“Here are the withdrawal symptoms I have experienced: Intense bouts of anger leading to interpersonal difficulties, Aggressive demeanor, Easily stressed out, suicidal ideation, Severe depression, Violent dreams while sleeping. (I actually enjoyed these, however others might consider them nightmares), Insomnia, Hallucinations, jumped out of bed screaming because I felt a “presence, Felt like insects were crawling all over me when going to bed, Shakes, Mania. (Energy far in excess of my ability to use it constructively), Inability to concentrate.”
That last one is scary but real.
These are just a few quotes of men who recently stopped viewing porn and jerking off fromwww.yourbrainonporn.com.
Believe me when I say porn is a drug. It is taking your life and manhood away from you. When you stop a drug you go through withdrawals.
But then you become better and stronger than you could have imagined.
Take the dive
If someone told you right now, If you do this you’ll have a better life. Why wouldn’t you just do it.
So here I am telling you and myself. Stop watching porn and start being a confident, incredible man who lives a life of abundance, sex and happiness.
What to do?
If this article has sparked some fire in your belly, that’s incredible. So what can you do right now to start reversing this hold that porn has on your brain? Have a look.
1) Commit right now to living a life porn and masturbation free
Just take the dive and never look back. Would you rather have the immediate gratification of porn, or be looked up to by all your peers when you are dating a model.
2) Battle through the hell
Trust me, it will suck at first – But nothing worth having comes easy. One of my favorite quotes is:
“Man cannot remake himself without struggle, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.” -Alexis Carrel
You will struggle with the urge to masturbate to porn, but when you do just come back here and read this article.
You may even go through withdrawals. Everyone is different and everyone’s withdrawal process is different. Just remember what your doing this for. Remember the end goal.
You will be the man you want to be and you will get beautiful women, or have a stronger relationship that you ever have. You just have to be strong.
3) Keep yourself busy
The more time you have with your mind being occupied the less time you will have to think about porn. Boredom is the killer here.
I struggle with the urge to watch porn or jerk off bad when I am extremely bored, especially when I am lying down with my laptop.
Get out of the house. Start going to the gym. Eventually this will be easy and your normal action.
4) Believe you can do this
The mind is powerful, and you can do anything you set it to.
5) Your brain will Reprogram itself
6) You will start to crave real women over porn
7) Stay strong
The fact that you are reading this right now is testimony to the fact that you have something inside of you that is driving you to change. You have the ability, just take action.
8) Reap the benefits
Fast forward one year, your brain is reprogrammed. New pathways have formed to crave natural sex and your old porn pathways have shut. You crave real women and you are confident enough to go out and meet them. Life is good, you earned it.
The benefits of quitting porn are nothing short of amazing
If you don’t want to take my word for it and don’t believe that porn is eating you alive from the inside out then take a look at the testimonials of all these other men experiencing the amazing effects of abstaining from porn.
“It‘s amazing how much of a difference there is. I‘m a lot less nervous, more coherent, confident, everything. It really does feel like my real personality can come out.”
“[Age 21] I come off more confident…well increasingly so. I have gotten better at talking to women exponentially as the 35 days have gone on. I also admire beauty a lot more. Girls have me in awe lately. Also, while I still look at them wanting to ravage them, a growing voice in my head just wants to be with them. I don’t experience it all the time, but sufficiently to affect me. It’s weird. Never really felt something like that before. But I guess that is what porn does to you.”
“Day 56 – Had an intellectual discussion with my Dad today on a topic I thought was out of my depth. But once the conversation got going I found myself making very relevant and noteworthy comments on the issue, which really surprised me, as I didn’t think I had it in me. My Dad seemed surprised at the knowledge I had as well! I really believe that abstinence broadens the mind and makes certain pieces of knowledge a lot easier for you to access rather than having a clouded mind when PMO’ing regularly.”
“[Day 17] Main difference today was that I also felt *consistently confident*, I simply was not shy at all, just very clear-speaking, loud, more talkative than ever, took more ‘comedy risks’, said a lot of weird/funny/unfunny shit that mostly went down well, often to complete strangers. No depression/anxiety (no horniness, either!) but a definite, marked heightening of mood. Was talking LOTS today, I’ve never been like this before – crazy!”
“I’m finding that I’m more balanced and happy with what nature intended humans to use reward circuitry for – healthy, joyful social interactions, physical exertion, positive self-talk. My feelings of sadness, doubt and inadequacy have been mitigated lately. For the first time, I’m chilling and facing the feelings rather than running away. =)
“Every time I reduce the porn habit I consistently get more pleasure out of life and my friendships. So effortlessly.”
You can change.
You can get out of your porn driven lifestyle and meet beautiful women, be happy beyond belief, and experience a life you always imagined.
It starts with a single decision. And it may be the best one you ever made.
Sean Russell is a true entrepreneur. After years of passionately improving his own life, he created MenProvement to help millions of men do the same. Visit his website HERE. This article is culled from MenProvement.
